Show Notes: Them Before Us | Advocating For Children's Rights | Katy Faust
Truth is the Ultimate Bigot...
Show Notes for My interview with Katy Faust
Chapter 2 / 00:13:22
Note: Her blog was called ask a bigot. Hilarious
Chapter 2 / 00:14:41
Note: Different parenting styles and nurturing styles of mothers and fathers are the socio-developmental food that kids are nourished by in childhood
Chapter 2 / 00:33:35
Note: You can't use the language of woke self-satisfaction the other direction if you talk about invalidating someone's humanity it's only okay when they're trans not when they're a single child. Coming out of the closet is pro 2 parent is not the same as coming out as gay.
Chapter 2 / 00:38:09
Note: When the adult desire is prioritized over the rights of children the parent-child relationship is reversed. Children are now making the sacrifices instead of the parents for the well-being of the other party
Chapter 3 / 00:25:36
Note: Are children the subjects of Rights or the objects of Rights?
Chapter 3 / 00:26:08
Note: In the United States today presently only about 46% of children come of age living with both mother and father. 46%
Chapter 3 / 00:30:07
Note: The statistics on fatherlessness, they are bad. Really Bad.
Chapter 3 / 00:38:08
Note: The role of the sexual revolution corresponds with increasing costs for schools, prisons, and social programs.
Chapter 3 / 00:42:00
Note: Bold claim that if Red staters are against high taxes, expensive schools, over-populated prisons and such… they better get on board the them before us children's rights train. Putting children first will be the best way to solve those problems.
Chapter 3 / 00:45:25
Note: How many black kids will graduate high school in a home where the nuclear families are intact and the married mother and father present?
17%
Chapter 4 / 00:00:55
Note: Psychologist Dr Fagan's observations about circuitous love between married parents and their biological children which is not present when all three parties are not present. Very interesting. Kids have to compete with non blood relatives for parental attention.
Chapter 4 / 00:04:06
Note: Earlier sexual exploration is a predictable result of fatherlessness
Chapter 4 / 00:04:59
From beginning: 01:45:18
Title:
Note: Fatherlessness associated with shorter telomers especially in boys
----
Chapter 4 / 00:12:52
Note: The Cinderella effect. Why young kids especially boys are not safe statistically with a man who's not their father.
Chapter 4 / 00:36:54
Note: When was the last time you read a book or watched a movie about a son's a long lost quest to find his father's girlfriend? They don't exist.
Chapter 4 / 00:37:33
Note: Luke, I am your stepfather!
Chapter 4 / 00:46:24
Note: Identity is the most important currency in our current world.
Adoption & donation lead to otherness + exclusion disorders
Chapter 5 / 00:05:45
Note: Charles Murray's research about what men and women both want in the workplace and the huge disparities between them
Chapter 5 / 00:24:46
Note: Father's reflect the world | Mothers reflect the home
Children need the balance provided by having both.
Chapter 6 / 00:13:55
Note: Everywhere gay marriage becomes law children and children's rights suffer. Making the case.
Chapter 6 / 00:14:52
Note: The countries that have permitted gay marriage have overruled the electorate and the predictable results that have followed around the world
Chapter 6 / 00:27:36
Note: The unholy Trinity of Parenthood:
1) Intent-based (LGBT) parenting
2) Surrogacy or donation
3) Children of divorce or abandonment.
Most of all these children will report serious emotional difficulties coping with their loss as well suppressing these feelings of father or mother hunger to protect the emotional wellbeing of their present parents.
Chapter 6 / 00:31:18
Note: The difference between child trafficking and a surrogacy agreement.. is timing
Chapter 6 / 00:32:39
Note: When gay parents split and then sue over custody and the government has to decide whose property the child is… Wow.
Chapter 7 / 00:03:25
Note: Parents are the two towers in the home no child should have to watch them fall
Chapter 7 / 00:09:38
Note: The statistics on no-fault divorce. They are very bad for child outcomes.
The argument is that no-fault divorce punishes the spouse who is not at fault and incentivizes the at-fault spouse.
Chapter 7 / 00:24:24
Note: Divorce assigns children in the impossible task of reorienting their behavior for/around adults who refuse to reorient theirs
Chapter 7 / 00:36:10
Note: Any conversation centered around fixing healthcare or mental health issues must include reducing the divorce rate. Eliminating divorce would eliminate most of these issues
Chapter 8 / 00:10:24
Note: Debunking biased studies about the children of gay parents.
Paul Sullins samples are sketchy and parents were allowed to self rate the child’s happiness levels.
Chapter 8 / 00:12:02
Note: Diminished outcomes research and statistics.
Chapter 8 / 00:30:08
Note: Samantha weising (director of development at them before us) learned what a mother was while watching The Land Before Time as a child. She was never taught to want a mother but was devastated when she found out what it was and why she didn’t have one. She asked every woman in her life if she could call them mom, even though her dads were good to her.
Chapter 9 / 00:24:05
Note: Donor conceived woman spends 30 years tracking down her biological father and finally feels whole
Chapter 9 / 00:38:25
Note: The nature of Eggspolitation is commerce and children feel commoditized after being involved
Chapter 9 / 00:39:45
Note: Cryobanks are billion-dollar corporations. Donors should actually be called sellers.
Chapter 9 / 00:40:50
Note: The fallout of being a donor baby who doesn't know their family and knows they were sold and probably unwanted. Being a child should not feel like a business service - like the parents were buying furniture
@42:00 Why is it illegal to give up a baby for financial consideration, but legal to purchase one designed through surrogacy while filtering for race, height, eye color, educational background,etc. If shoppers have the money they can buy what they like.
Chapter 10 / 00:01:53
Note: Fatherlessness is one of the greatest social ills of our time but motherlessness is uncharted territory. This is the first time in history it has been tried.
Chapter 10 / 00:14:29
Note: Surrogacy horror stories many of them from gay men
Chapter 10 / 00:23:03
Note: Genetic dissimilarity creates additional risks for surrogate mothers.
Chapter 10 / 00:31:31
Note: Embryo disposition means trying to figure out how to discard humans when we have more than are needed. It's a little sick
Chapter 10 / 00:48:53
Note: One of them before us suggestions for fixing surrogacy is to prohibit the donor mother from receiving compensation just like they do with other donors in the medical field. Makes sense (although I personally think organ donors should be compensated.)
Chapter 11 / 00:08:44
Note: Book about the primal wound referred to as the adoptee’s Bible
Chapter 11 / 00:11:55
Note: Primal wounds
Chapter 11 / 00:15:10
Note: The hypocrisy of those who were upset about children being separated from their parents of the border who have no problem with children being separated from their parents at birth
Chapter 11 / 00:29:56
Note: Clients versus products.
In adoption, the child is the client… in surrogacy/donation the child is the product & the clients are the adults.
Chapter 11 / 00:30:39
Note: The big fertility background check. It doesn’t exist.
Chapter 12 / 00:16:33
Note: The divorce rate has doubled for the last 40 years
JUst before I posted this interview I saw a tweet related to the topic from a student who did not have parents growing up:
He is correct but notice the use of “two-parent” home instead of what is really critical for the child’s future:
The idea that the sex or biological connection of the two adults is one of the most fashionable and damaging luxury beliefs at present. It simply is not true, but the science is being drowned out by marketing and signaling.
My Top Book Recommendations of 2019
My Top Book Recommendations of 2018
LISTEN TO/READ MY CONTENT:
► YOUTUBE — https://www.youtube.com/c/OhHaleYEAH
► PODCAST: SPREAKER- https://www.spreaker.com/show/oh-hale-yeah
► PODCAST: iTunes — http://bit.ly/ohysubscribe
► PODCAST: Google — http://bit.ly/OHYGoogle
► QUORA — https://goo.gl/31USZa
► SUBSTACK — https://bit.ly/HaleStormSubstack